I don’t! Therefore, I can’t.

“Argue for your limitations and they’re yours.” –Richard Bach

The words we speak and think have a profound impact on our bodies and what we achieve and create in our lives, just ask Seth Godin. So, what is the story you tell others about yourself? Is telling people you don’t have a good memory helping you overcome that problem or is it a means of giving yourself permission to be forgetful? By telling our mind and body what our limitations are we are turning those limitations into reality.

HELP! The Storytellers Recovery Plan:

  1. Think about who you say you are. Write down a list of all the stories you have told others about who you are and those that you tell yourself in private about your own limitations and characteristics.
  1. Stop it. Seriously, stop it. Catch yourself in the process of creating a limiting mentality.
  1. Turn Can’ts into Don’ts. Example: “I don’t eat carbs after 8pm” is a strong statement that ties your goals to who you are by creating a new story about what this new version of (insert name here) does and doesn’t do.
  1. Turn “I’m bad at…” into “Everyday I’m getting better at…” Example: “I’m working hard at improving my memory and I’m getting a little better each day.” This statement tells your subconscious mind that you’ve got this! This isn’t a flaw! This is just one area of your life you are working to improve.
  1. Now write a list of statements about WHO YOU WANT TO BE that includes all the don’ts and dos and I’m working on’s. This list should that take into consideration the person you most desire to be.
  1. Believe it! Affirm it in the mornings while looking at yourself in the mirror. It sounds silly doesn’t it? But seeing yourself say “I am a great public speaker” or “Everyday my memory is improving”

Practical tip: Use a dry-erase marker to write your affirmations on your bathroom mirror so you can repeat them every morning and every night!

This article has a list of affirmations you can use to get you started: 35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life via The Huffington Post

Look out for my next post on how to write affirmations in 6 easy steps! 

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The Road to Hell…

is paved with good intentions.” This quote radiates with a truth that is singular and yet the misunderstanding of it is a universal malaise.  Few people look for their purpose early in life; Some stumble upon it, some die never having found it. The few who look for it try to find it in the past, in the skills they’ve acquired, in the degrees they have framed on their wall because they are trying to pave the path to purpose with good intentions. Nobody wants to find a purpose that nullifies or throws away their past achievements. Nobody wants to let go of the decisions they made in the past in order to arrive at their true purpose. Why? Because disappointing ourselves and others by saying we have taken a wrong turn is nothing short of misery. To awaken the soul we have to look beyond the money spent, the time “wasted,” and, most importantly, the idea of finding purpose only in the decisions of our past. Choose to forgo the notion that A leads to B and B to C and so on. The path to success is NOT paved with the good intention of rewarding the decisions of your past self; rather, it is paved with the self awareness and intuition of who you are TODAY and who you aspire to be TOMORROW. 

“Doesn’t matter if the glass if half-empty or half-full. All that matters is that you are the one pouring the water.” -Mark Cuban

or the wine… Taking 100% responsibility for your life means never blaming anyone else for the outcome of your choices. The way you choose to respond to hardships and obstacles will always be a direct reflection of the quality of your life. Ask yourself how you are shaping your life with the choices you make and the meaning you attribute to the circumstances around you!