“Argue for your limitations and they’re yours.” –Richard Bach
The words we speak and think have a profound impact on our bodies and what we achieve and create in our lives, just ask Seth Godin. So, what is the story you tell others about yourself? Is telling people you don’t have a good memory helping you overcome that problem or is it a means of giving yourself permission to be forgetful? By telling our mind and body what our limitations are we are turning those limitations into reality.
HELP! The Storytellers Recovery Plan:
- Think about who you say you are. Write down a list of all the stories you have told others about who you are and those that you tell yourself in private about your own limitations and characteristics.
- Stop it. Seriously, stop it. Catch yourself in the process of creating a limiting mentality.
- Turn Can’ts into Don’ts. Example: “I don’t eat carbs after 8pm” is a strong statement that ties your goals to who you are by creating a new story about what this new version of (insert name here) does and doesn’t do.
- Turn “I’m bad at…” into “Everyday I’m getting better at…” Example: “I’m working hard at improving my memory and I’m getting a little better each day.” This statement tells your subconscious mind that you’ve got this! This isn’t a flaw! This is just one area of your life you are working to improve.
- Now write a list of statements about WHO YOU WANT TO BE that includes all the don’ts and dos and I’m working on’s. This list should that take into consideration the person you most desire to be.
- Believe it! Affirm it in the mornings while looking at yourself in the mirror. It sounds silly doesn’t it? But seeing yourself say “I am a great public speaker” or “Everyday my memory is improving”
Practical tip: Use a dry-erase marker to write your affirmations on your bathroom mirror so you can repeat them every morning and every night!
This article has a list of affirmations you can use to get you started: 35 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life via The Huffington Post
Look out for my next post on how to write affirmations in 6 easy steps!